children caught in the crossfire.

The Children's Society published research last week which had been undertaken by the University of York (so it has to be good I say as an ex-Yorkie!) which confirmed what parents ought to know but seem to completely disregard ie that children are badly affected by arguments at home and that discord in their home environment causes children distress and depression.
Staying together "for the sake of the children" may not be the right way forward for many families and I do wonder whether parents who are just thinking about separation should come in for advice much earlier, so that they can weigh up their options with a clear picture of likely outcomes, and then decide whether their children would actually be better off with inevitably less money around but also less unhappiness?